Dear Owen's Preschool Teacher,
I will never send you this letter, because it indicates that I have spent far too much time dissecting your comments, churning up your pile of sand, and transforming it into a mental Mount Rushmore.
No, it is much more emotionally stable to write this letter just to process my thoughts and gain some perspective. And then publish it. On the Internet.
You mentioned after class that Owen had a really hard time settling down today. He didn't use his inside voice. He had difficulty with transitions. You said, "He was just so impulsive."
I wanted to ask you more details, but the impulsive one was halfway out the door, while the baby was attempting to dive into the fish tank.
Here's the deal: I totally get it. Owen is excitable. He screams unnecessarily. He's a fan of hopping around. He's been known to have difficulty with transitions.
But please, please, don't translate his behavior into "impulsive."
Understand that when we came home from preschool, he and I had a long, serious talk. You will get an apology on Thursday. There will be consequences if this behavior continues.
However---don't say that he "couldn't control himself." or that he was "unable to calm down."
He's four. He'll learn. Buck the trend of labeling any form of exuberance as impulsive.
If I didn't know better, I may have worried that something is "wrong" with my son. There is nothing "wrong" with Owen. There's nothing "wrong" with people who have issues with impulse control. There are just things to work on. We all have things to work on.
Let's be careful with our labels.
Let's not fail another generation of boys.
It would be helpful for me to hear your thoughts about what I can do to support you and my little man. That just seems more constructive than telling me what my child seems "unable" to do.
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