I mean, holy effing shitballs.
Yet, this friend of his also enjoys his Batman, and dons a Batman mask with (in Owen's opinion) alarming regularity.
So, instead of playing and
The friend is a good sport and takes off the mask, but Owen can still smell the eerie mask-ness of the house, and never relaxes, until oh...the last five minutes of the playdate.
And THEN, we went to a birthday party this last weekend, and guess the theme of the party? Take your time...
Yes, BATMAN. Weak-ass, mask-wearing Batman. And the craft...making a BATMAN mask.
Owen made the mask, and added all sorts of sparkly hearts and stars to his, thus making it a Liberace Batman, armed with the power of FABULOUS!
But wear the damn thing? That would be a negative.
I'm fine with all of this, because what am I going to do, pin him on the ground and force him into a costume? (Again?)
I need to accept that my kid is not a costume wearer. Most of the time, this doesn't bother me...it's his little sensory issue, and we all have them.
But, when I was at preschool on Tuesday, Owen's teacher told everybody that they acted out the story of the Lion and the Mouse. She held up a terrifying lion mask and my friend whispered, "Oh, Nancy, I bet Owen just hated that."
I nodded, and unable to restrain myself, asked his teacher if he wore the mask.
"Oh, no," she said. "And, he told me, in no uncertain terms, that he would not dress up as a shepherd, sing songs, or dance at the pageant. He was very polite, but said, 'No thank you, please.'" She was very nice about the whole thing, and acknowledged that kids are different, and that the pageant is not a big deal.
However---I really, really, really want to see my kid dressed up like a shepherd singing little songs about Mary rocking Baby Jesus or Donkeys Giving the Christ Child A Ride Around the Stable, or whatever it is they will be singing.
Yet, that would be forcing my kid to wear a mask.
Yes, I believe that kids need to summon the energy and do things that they may not necessarily choose to do--homework, practicing, naps, church. I also believe that when a kid tells you he is afraid, you need to honor his words, and provide him with a basic sense of safety.
So tell me, Those Who Have Lived This:
1) Relax and let the chips fall as they may?
2) Bribe him?
3) Chill the hell out?
4) All of the above?